Vibrator Orgasms vs. Manual Self-Love: Which Path to Climax Feels Best?

 Comparing various paths to pleasure for women, and their sublime results. 

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Women have been using vibrators to climax since the late 19th century, thanks to British physician Dr. J. Mortimer Granville who developed the first electromagnetic sexual device.

Since then, vibrators have helped many women achieve their first orgasms, which is significant since studies show heterosexual women are the least likely group to experience one during sex with a partner.

Lesbians, heterosexual men, gay, and bi men, on the other hand, are much more likely to climax when with a lover.

Vibrators have TRULY changed the game for straight women. But what makes orgasms attained with sex toys different from those that happen during manual self-love or tech-free partnered sex?

Orgasmic differences

Women have reported experiencing pleasure and reaching the “big O” differently based on whether or not they were using a vibrator. The human body responds differently to vibrational patterns than it does the human hand or tongue.

Vibrators can, in fact, increase the likelihood of having multiple orgasms of various patterns! According to a College of Sexual and Relationship Therapy study from 2010, 17 women between the ages of 25 and 55 were studied and half of them reported it was easier to orgasm with a vibrator. Plus, they said using their intimate devices made them feel empowered! Vibrator use increased their sexual satisfaction and function.

Genital vibration has been shown to increase the orgasm capacity of those with vaginas. Multiple intensities and increased sensitivity can produce a wide range of orgasms. Women who trained themselves to have multiple orgasms with a vibrator reported multiple orgasms with and without a partner. Vibrators can also help those with compromised genital sensory thresholds orgasm.

They can also make pleasure more accessible to people with different types of disabilities, especially those with spinal cord injuries and people diagnosed with cancer. Older women can also experience clitoral orgasms through a vibrator even after vaginal sensitivity weakens with age.

Vibratory stimulation can also treat premature and delayed ejaculation in men. It can also produce higher scores of sexual desire, erectile function, sexual satisfaction, and orgasmic potential.

On the other hand, achieving orgasm without vibrators is often more time-consuming, especially for people with vaginas.

Some people report having stronger orgasms with their partner without vibrators, but this depends on their partners’ skill level and good communication.

Orgasm comes from increased genital blood pressure. Vibrators can definitely overwhelm people and produce sub-par orgasms if the right technique isn’t used. According to the Journal of Sex Education and therapy (1991), vibrations should be delivered in bursts at the early stage of arousal and continuous vibration should be delivered when the blood flow reaches plateau.

Vibrators for couples

But bringing a vibrator into your sex life doesn’t mean you can’t involve your lover.

Couples that use vibrators can experience incredible new sensations that can heighten intimacy and sexual satisfaction and self-knowledge, especially when using devices intended for partner play. The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapy study also concluded that most people found that vibrator use enhanced their relationships.

The Lelo Ora-2 vibrator, for example, mimics the movements of oral sex and has 10 vibration patterns. Some reviewers state the sensations it delivers are similar to or even better than oral sex. The Lioness vibrator is one that allows you to track your orgasms and sense body temperature, while offering different vibration patterns.

Good vibes

So far, we’ve found that vibrators can help many people experience sexual satisfaction they might not otherwise enjoy. They can make sex more accessible to people experiencing sexual dysfunction or who have difficulty achieving orgasm.

Vibrators do, in fact, produce different orgasms since there are many modes and settings available on the average vibrator. Whether someone deems them as better or worse is strictly based on personal preferences.

What may matter most of all, however, is giving yourself permission to experiment with sex toys and discovering what works best for you.

Image sources: Sharon McCutcheon/Unsplash, O.school, Lioness